This Saturday begins the last year of my twenties. In the spirit of reflecting on another closed chapter, here are some things I’ve been thinking about.


  1. The best friends are people who believe good things about you at your highs and lows.
  2. Fun is worthwhile.
  3. Have hard conversations sooner rather than later.
  4. Your friends want to hear from you. They’re just busy or think you’re busy.
  5. Extremes are easy. Balance is hard.
  6. Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly at first.
  7. Be honest with yourself.
  8. Some questions are better asked than Googled.
  9. No one is self-made.
  10. Worldly things like clothes and your post code do not define your character.
  11. Maintaining a change is still making progress.
  12. Your body can create joy.
  13. Seeking awe prevents stagnation.
  14. That thing you feel every time you want to try something and believe it’s not an option for you? It’s called shame and it wastes so much time.
  15. Try the damn thing already.
  16. Shopping doesn’t make you vain or shallow. If anything, it means you are providing something for a future self.
  17. Neither does liking pop culture. You are allowed to participate in the times you live in.
  18. You are valuable, no matter what your body looks like.
  19. You are not too old to read young adult fiction. Literally no one worth being around will judge you on what you read for fun.
  20. Declining invitations feels good sometimes.
  21. Consistency predicts success more than quality. Get good at posting things that are 80% good and 100% done.
  22. Liking someone is enough of a reason to be their friend. You are so much more than the average of the people you spend your time around.
  23. Anything that’s yours to give is yours to reclaim. Your attention, your energy, your time – all of it.
  24. At some point, you’re going to have to feel your feelings.
  25. You don’t have to keep in touch with everyone.
  26. You are free to walk away from people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
  27. Stop taking yourself so seriously. Most mistakes are fixable, forgivable, or forgettable.
  28. Leave room for mystery. No one knows everything.